BDSM for Beginners

I don't remember how this started but while discussing fantasies my wife mentioned how much she liked to be dominated..ok so I'm thinking you like an "in charge" kind of guy right. I sure was right and I did not even know how right I was. As we opened up about the things that turn us on and what we would like to try out if curiosity more came to light. Seems my wife, like many women, have a fantasy about being tied up and teased or more. It started innocent as these things do, a necktie over her eyes so she could not see what was coming, and grew to even wilder things. It stated with a paddle and my wife being very, very naughty and telling me she needed a good spanking. Now come on guys, here was my chance to give me wife a good thrashing for all those times she drove me crazy, so you can see it would be easy to get carried away. In my concern about this we started with bondage rule #1 The safe word ! This is a word you and your partner agree on as a stop in case things get out of hand. You see because my wife likes to be dominated and will often resist me in these fantasy situations...stop and no (only in these agreed about situations...everywhere and every time else No means No!!)  can become confusing is it the role play, is it real..after all that last swing with the paddle was a good strong one. So if things ever get too real or too rough all either of us has to do is use the safe word. Make sure this is a word that in not in your everyday vocabulary so it could not be confused with anything in the roles you are playing. Use something way off the wall like pancakes or ostrich ...lol

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Ropes...

Here is one we enjoy. This simple rope tie can be worn under clothes so my wife loves to wear this all day and no one but her and I know about it. Once in a while I will give the ropes a little tug so she can feel them press tightly against all her parts but she also stays very wet just knowing people are looking and don't know. I think it even turns her on that someone may find out. I love going out to dinner knowing she is wearing this and feeling those ropes against her.  Its a huge turn on..Later when we get home she will strip down to just these ropes and I love watching her walk around like this. Imagine being together in the kitchen, making dinner together with her wearing just this. Makes dessert an easy choice....lol